Last week I got a call from a mom asking if I do Committed Impulse work with kids.
“My daughter is in a school assembly and she is very very nervous about it.”
“How old is she?”
“WelI, I don’t usually work with kids,” I replied
“She’s consumed with nervousness. And I know you help people with that.”
“Ok, OK, let’s see what we can do.”
I usually have people fill out a little questionnaire before I work with them so that the time is used most effectively. But in this case I asked that her daughter draw a picture of what she feels when she gets nervous.
A few days later I meet this amazing six year old on Skype.
She sat up straight in her chair with beaming bright eyes and we started talking.
When I asked her to describe what she drew for her nervousness image, she said, “Well, an elephant walks in the room and sits on my chest.”
Then I asked her what kind of thoughts she has before the elephant walks in.
“I start to think that the eighth and ninth graders will think I am a bad dancer. Then I think what if my dance goes badly in assembly.”
(Kind of amazing how young all these thoughts start up in us, isn’t it?!)
So, I explained to her about the four access points to being present, and particularly about “I’m back.” ( if you’re not familiar with the 4 access points – listen to this audio:
I had her start practicing “I’m back”, every time she noticed her mind start to go to dance worry.
It was so cute to see her say “I’m back”, then take a deep breath and look around her room.
Then we discussed the elephant that sits on her chest.
“So, does it feel like a lot of pressure?”
And to make a long story short, we concluded that maybe that sensation isn’t so bad. We reframed the sensation so that instead of the elephant crushing her – it was a big ol’ elephant hug.
“And, if you dance what that hug feels like – it is going to be amazing”, I assured her.
She looked at me through the computer, paused and said, “Ya know, that is really good advice. That is really going to help me.”
That, I assure you, made my week.
We all have to remember that the sensations in our body are not good, and they’re not bad – it’s just pressure, or spinning, or flowing, or lifting, etc.
And, at times we need to reframe the sensation if we associate it as something bad. After all – the sensations we feel are just atoms pulsating in our body mass.
It’s also key that we catch ourselves when we go into mental dramas and COME BACK.
The result: creatively invincibility.
What about you?
You ever been in a creative situation where you started having thoughts that stifled you?
Or body sensations that prevented you from staying present?
What did you do?
Let us know what works for you.
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Sending you a big elephant hug,
Ps. I’ll be in touch soon with more info on the Committed Impulse Online Training Program ( IT”S SO DAMN AWESOME!!!) launching January 3rd, 2013.