Have you ever been in an audition or meeting or given a presentation and gone blind?
I don’t mean permanently blind. More like short term blindness.
Do you suffer from Short Term Blindness Syndrome (STBS)? Let me explain with a story about what’s happened to me on many an audition.
I walk into the audition room. I start to feel a sensation that I wish I wasn’t feeling. You know, like nervous.
I try to get rid of that nervous feeling with everything I’ve got. In fact, I’m desperate to get rid of that feeling.
Without realizing it, I’ve decreased my breathing and tightened my body, which ironically does nothing but make me more nervous. Great.
I’m on autopilot. I stumble through the audition and somehow make my way back to the door. What the hell just happened?
As I leave the building I realize I didn’t see the people in the room. Truth be told, I didn’t even see the room for that matter. I was a friggin‘ blind acting zombie.
Thankfully, STBS doesn’t happen to me very often anymore. But I’ve certainly been there and it’s beyond painful when it happens.
So what triggers STBS? The main trigger stems from the notion that there is an ideal state to be in in order to act . . .
Or an ideal state to be in in order to perform your best while in an important meeting, or during an important presentation. You know, during shit that counts.
Here’s the kicker people. There is no ideal state to be in – to act or hold an important meeting or do anything important for that matter. (This includes dates).
Your job is to tell the truth from exactly where you are – not to manipulate yourself into some fantasy state of “confidence” or however you think you should be.
Here are the facts. When it comes to what we’ll feel at any given moment, we’re pretty much out of control.
Think about it. Can you predict what you’re going to feel 5 minutes from now?
Well, maybe if you’re downing a half bottle of Jack you have a rough idea of what you’re going to feel in the next few minutes.
But for the rest of us, we don’t know what we’re going to feel. We can’t count on feeling any emotion consistently.
What can you count on? Uncertainty. And sure, it’s scary for your mind. After all, your mind wants you to be in complete control. But in reality, uncertainty is a beautiful thing.
People only want your truth. They want to share in what you’re really feeling right now. And that is always an unknown, uncertain.
When you’re in a meeting and able to be present with any sensation that arises within you (nervous, scared, elated, excited, sad, joyful, whatever), it’s extremely compelling. It’s magnetic and impossible to ignore.
When you’re being real with what you’re feeling in each moment, people listen.
Funny enough, when you try to hide what you’re feeling in order to appear “confident” or “together” or whatever, people can’t see you so well and, you can’t see them, and everybody is going to hell of a time listening. Chaos. STBS.
So here’s the game plan.
When you walk into your next audition, meeting, or presentation expect to feel lots of different sensations. Most of them, you won’t like. Just stay engaged and let yourself really feel them. You do that, and you won’t go blind. And, you’ll actually appear confident. Confidence is the result of being willing to tell the truth no matter what.
And, nervousness, the sensation most of us try hardest to hide, will only last 7 – 12 seconds if you really let yourself feel it.
So feel your sensations, breathe, and SEE what is in front of you.
If you get lost in thought or things start to get foggy, come back to your breath, your body and what is actually in front of you. Not only will you not go blind, but people will get to see the amazing and talented you. And that’s beyond awesome.
(I just love this stuff, can you tell?)
If you ever get nervous or have your own version of STBS, and you want to handle all this stuff once and for all . . .
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So now it’s your turn. Let me know if you’ve ever gone blind, and what has helped to bring you back to seeing. Leave a comment and let me know.