Rules for riding the subway:
Make no eye contact.
Pretend that we are not all in this together.
When you bang into someone – deny that you are not in a moving mosh pit.
What breaks all the rules:
A baby’s eyes.
A young mother brings her 7 month old baby on at 34th Street.
The baby hasn’t learned that it’s not ok to really look at people. With bright wide eyes the bambino stares at the intricacies of people’s faces. No judgment, just curiosity and amazement.
People melt. They forget the rules. There is instant community. People dare to look at one another and make googeee faces at the baby. Everyone feels safe and connected.
Use your baby eyes. Your presence will shift your environment. See as if for the first time and change the world.
What I intended to write:
When you are acting, see everything around you with baby eyes. The more you can see, the more the audience can see. We must have our attention on what we are seeing, not what we look like.
Caveat: If the young mom brings an enormous perambulator on the subway only resentment will ensue.
For Today: Practice really seeing what is around you. Start by seeing in terms of lightness and darkness, texture, and color. See the person you are having a relationship with as if for the first time. When you are acting or in a business meeting see what is actually in front of you.
You can write that below in the comment box – cus I haven’t figured that out yet.