“Should I call that director I met at the film festival? The one who said I should give her a call? Nah. Let me wait until I feel more upbeat.”
“I don’t quite feel ready to drop my headshot off at that agent’s office. I still have that unsure feeling. . . ”
“I’m going to get back into auditioning soon. Just not super confident . . . yet.”
“That girl is sooo hot. As soon as I feel a little better, I’m definitely going to text her.”
C’mon now. Tell the truth. Have you ever said something remotely like this to yourself? I know I certainly have. And I’ll bet you have too.
Here’s the problem. Life is short, yo.
What exactly are you waiting for?
Maybe when you’re an old fart with quadruple cellulite chins you’ll suddenly feel confident. (Maybe it IS best to wait until then to get those new headshots 🙂
Whoever came up with the idea that we’re supposed to feel “confident” before we move ahead has screwed a hell of a lot of people over.
Look. I’ve worked with and hung out with many of the biggest movie stars around.
Wanna know a secret? They don’t feel any more confident than anyone else I’ve ever met. No shit.
But here’s what’s important for you and I: They don’t wait around to feel some ideal sensation before committing fully to their careers and their craft.
And while we’re talking about it, what the hell is confidence anyway?
And how long does it really last when you’re feeling it? 5 seconds? 1 minute? Maybe an afternoon?
And are you really going to wait for that feeling to arrive before you make your move?
Sugar, here’s the news you need to know. You can’t afford to wait around to feel confident. The planet needs you now.
And just between you and I, confidence is so 1990’s, anyway.
Manipulating yourself into some idea of “confidence” is as cool as those big shoulder pads you had in that shiny leather jacket you used to wear.
Speaking of needing a new look, I say we give confidence a makeover.
Instead of confidence being a solitary, static, euphoric, fleeting feeling, let’s look at it in a new way. As something all-encompassing and real. Something that’s in a constant state of flux. What if the new definition of confidence is “moving ahead no matter what you’re feeling.”
I say, let’s allow “confidence” to encompass the full range of sensations.
The key to this is not to back down and retreat into a mental drama when you feel uncomfortable.
It’s simple. Our new and improved confidence requires breathing while you’re uncomfortable. Embracing those sensations (instead of pushing them away). And staying engaged with whatever is in front of you.
Now that I think about it, this is actually sounding more like being invincible than having confidence. (exciting!)
Here’s the deal. If we want to accomplish anything in life, we all gotta learn to move ahead regardless of whatever sensation occurs.
So what, if you’re feeling nervous or terrified? That’s part of life. Isn’t it? If you wait until those sensations are no longer around…well, at that point, you may just be powder.
Here’s the bottom line. It pains me to see so many actors and creators of all ages delaying making their stamp on the world because they don’t feel some particular sensation (like “confidence”).
We all gotta remember: body sensations are constantly shifting. And putting any sensation at the top of your food chain will only assure one thing: your ultimate disappointment.
The world needs you.
Let’s talk about this. Let me know what you think. When did you first get the idea that confidence was the ideal state to be in? Are you willing to let confidence be something that is in a constant state of flux?